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This is my second marriage. If people have no decent care in childhood and adolescence all they can do is put themselves first and take no prisoners. Maybe I shouldnt. It has brought me to a place where I find myself valuating my life, my relationships. Hes affectionate towards me and can be social with strangers but doesnt seem to have many friends. If I say something about myself or my family, he hijacks the conversation and makes it about him or his family. His relationship with his Dad was very questionable. Pure innocent ignorance has a lot to do with it as I had no idea I ought to know of these traits..which I didnt, I called the behaviour conditions as I had no idea these conditions had names. Too many deaths I feel that could have been avoided. So I did some ringing around different psychologist and was finally given the contact details of one that did. All the self help books provide the type of suggestions suitable for a 35 50 year old still in work, with children and friends and a reasonable partner, who is thought to be wanting to get on and achieve goals My only goal is to get through another day. In fact, their lack of understanding of social cues, situations, and intentions can make many of them more likely to manipulate even if it isnt entirely intentional. but regularly interrups whatever I am doing to demand attention NOW. I was advised no contact is one of the best ways. I cannot tell if it was a good thing that my family aside from being all narc monsters, were also all very smart giving me the highest iq/capacities of the family which is mostly (aside from being sensitive) what drove my brothers and parents into a sickening jealousy. If I give him space he finds the words. Take care with this as you may need support when you tackle this issue. Study the concept of narcissistic supply and you will discover that people with narcissism are fed by the reactions they get. It is also possible that someone with aspergers may be misdiagnosed as having narcissism, as the two conditions share some similar symptoms. Do high-functioning autistic or aspies hoover? I know that doesnt work so well for narcissists though, given the often extreme lack of self awareness. You are so right Robin, Its exactly as you say where Id give another chance and the misery would start all over again. Also someone with Asbergers focusses more on themselves, where as the Narcissistic person focusses on criticising and manipulating others. Perhaps if they are seeing and are subjected to these traits then there is a possibility of developing them.